I need you all to explain to me how this works because I really don’t fucking get it. I don’t want to hear any bullshit about the crazy:hot ratio either because I know guys who deal with a lot of shit from girls who are cute but no one would call them hot. I know many guys insist that all women are crazy and that in itself is annoying but I mean when a girl is clearly going to be a problem a month down the line; girls who exhibit everything most men say they don’t want within a week of dating and they eat it up.
I will cite an example and what triggered this little tirade. I have a friend who started dating a girl last Saturday. They met on a dating site. He messaged me last week and said that he met a girl and that they have been out every night since. That is fine. I am happy for him. He said she likes him a lot and he likes her and that they plan on taking it slow but they aren’t taking it slow at all. That is up to them but because I was curious what the fuss was about I Facebook stalked her (just a little.)
When I found her and looked at her page I was overwhelmed by the declarations she had already made to my friend (she tagged him in every status update.) “I miss you already.” “Are you tired because you’ve been running through my mind all day?” “My mom added you on Facebook.” When I read all the crazy things she posted about a man she hasn’t even known a week, I thought… I fucking hate men! She is clearly an issue but not mine so I do not care about her impending fits of jealous rage and the inevitable restraining order.
Men say they don’t want a girl who is clingy, too needy or moves too fast. The truth of the matter is this girl is a walking time bomb of nuts and my friend is eating it up. I understand wanting someone to like you but come on. This girl is going to be a problem. I know so many guys who get sucked into this. I have seen guys date women with no sense of boundaries. Why is this attractive? And clearly it is attractive or appealing.
I think the fact of the matter isn’t that guys don’t want women that behave like this but that has to be determined on a case by case basis. Guys say women are crazy but the above mentioned behavior is crazy to me. It screams desperate and needy. Is that what men secretly want? If it is I am fucked. I don’t have it in me. But really… have fun building a relationship with your future stalker.