Disclaimer: Some of you may not want to read this. It is pretty graphic which I am good at but it still may make some of my regular readers uncomfortable. This is a shining example of why I’ll never be Freshly Pressed.
The first time I squirted I was in my late teens and was the only one in the room. I didn’t know what the hell had happened. I actually thought I peed while I was masturbating. I was young and had no one to ask about it. It proved to be an isolated incident. Years later, in my twenties I discovered women could ejaculate but I hadn’t had that happen since I was a teenager and I shrugged it off.
As any woman who squirts knows, when you can squirt (and I’ve actually read most women can but don’t have a partner who can get her to the point that she would) you feel a lot of pressure as your vagina tightens. When this happens it feels a lot like you have to pee. So at a young age I assumed that is what happened. After said initial incident, I would often feel like I was going to pee/squirt during sex but it never happened. I really didn’t think much of it. When I watched porn if a girl squirted I didn’t really relate it to what I was experiencing.
I didn’t squirt again until I was 37. I had randomly hooked up with a much younger guy. While we were having sex (Pakistani Drill Press), as I started to cum and tighten up he pulled out. My entire body became tenser and I became aware of the warm liquid that was now running down the inside of my legs, down my pussy and all over my partner’s abdomen. As my body relaxed, he slid his index and ring fingers curved face upward into my still trembling pussy, began massaging my g-spot and moved his hand up and down quickly until my body tensed again. My sheet was quickly becoming saturated and as he started the movement again I grabbed his wrist. He smiled at me and said, “I didn’t know you could squirt.” “Neither did I,” I responded. He shook his hand free of my hold and made me come one more time to prove it. When I asked him how he knew to pull out he explained that his last girlfriend squirted. He explained that when a girl is going to squirt it feels like her pussy is pushing him out. I asked him about nine million questions and he answered the best he could.
I had sex several times after that and didn’t squirt again. About a month after the incident I began sleeping with another man who asked if I could squirt and I told him that I couldn’t do it reliably. He could make me squirt with his fingers too. A few partners later (What?!?! I told you I get around), it happened during anal and then again with the guy after that. I never squirted regularly. I orgasm easily but I didn’t always squirt.
After a while I was able to do it masturbating. This is not something I like to happen when I am alone because the novelty of it doesn’t really thrill me and it is kinda’ messy. Because I masturbate a lot and my squirting is involuntary, it happens just about every time I have alone time, now. I don’t projectile squirt like Cytherea but my orgasm do seem to be getting stronger. I can sometimes stop it just by not removing whatever is inserted in vagina but then it builds up and after two or three times of not squirting when my body wants to, I squirt a lot. This can be a problem when I just want to rub one out quickly and go about my business because there tends to be a giant wet spot somewhere. I live in very closed quarters with limited wifi access. This means if I want to watch porn and masturbate I have to go to the living room…
JWo
/ December 5, 2012I’ll never look at you the same again… Not that that’s a bad thing…
trjensen
/ December 5, 2012I hope it isn’t a bad thing Jason. I like having you around.
JWo
/ December 6, 2012No worries… I’m not going anywhere… especially NOW…
trjensen
/ December 6, 2012licensedmentalhealthcounselor
/ December 5, 2012Wow, this was an interesting read! Thanks for being so open. I once dated a girl who I thought could squirt, but she would always make me stop because it felt like she had to pee. I don’t think she was comfortable with the whole squirting thing. Thanks for sharing. Very insightful.
trjensen
/ December 5, 2012If she felt like she was going to pee then she was going to squirt. The thing for me is… if I keep whatever is in me, boy or toy, then I typically will climax without squirting. When a guy pulls out (and it has to be the right moment) I have no control over what is happening. It is just like a man ejaculating. I couldn’t stop it if I wanted to.
Terry722
/ December 5, 2012So is this a good or bAd thing? I dated a woman who not only squirted but shat…what is the general consensus amongst women about squirting? Is it desired? Sought after? Or fought? I never know to embrace it as most women who do- are embarrassed – do you comfort them? Encourage it? Or explain why it’s a turn on or off?
trjensen
/ December 5, 2012I think it’s a good thing. Like I said it is messy. I enjoy it. I know women who really think it is peeing. There is a lot of research saying that fluid women ejaculate is very similar to male ejaculant. It is involuntary so if a girl is uncomfortable with it odds are that won’t change easily. And some guys don’t like it. I do but it can be annoying too.
Rob
/ December 6, 2012My wife does sometimes but will not accept that she does. I can’t get past that.
trjensen
/ December 6, 2012Why do you think that is? Is she embarassed?
nikkix2
/ December 6, 2012Amen to men that can encourage this!! My 2nd ex-husband could do this well (it was infact the only thing he did well).
As a woman that can do this with the right partner, I think it is the best thing ever the release and feeling is awesome
trjensen
/ December 6, 2012It does feel amazing. But if I feel like I am going to squirt and I don’t my orgasm seems to last much longer. I like that too.
seattlepolychick
/ December 6, 2012Huh.. you’re reading my mind again. I’ve been trying to find info about this online that isn’t actually a porn clip and having a little trouble. I’m 38 and just began squirting.
I’ve had a lot of sex (whatever.. yes women like sex) and I’ve generally been relatively orgasmic.. but this is new. Granted, I was in a monogamous 12 year marriage (still am but it’s polyamorous now). The sex was very good though. I married one of the best sexual partners of my life.
But.. when we opened up and I had sex with my boyfriend (the second guy since we opened up) I squirted. I was a little shocked and embarrassed. Apparently this happens to him a lot.. something about the angles he uses or his dick or technique I figured. Whatever. Then after a while it started happening with my other lover. What the hell? Then it happened once with hubby and once with my girlfriend. “Okay.. what is going on?” I asked. Why would I suddenly at 38 be all squirty when it had only happened maybe twice in my life before (both times masturbating)? I’m a fan, don’t get me wrong. It’s nice to know it’s not just me and that maybe this is just one of those things.
trjensen
/ December 6, 2012When it comes to actually squirting during sex, I have found in most cases, size is pretty important. A lot of girth is a very good thing. If he can do it with his hand, that is great too. I have found that I do need penetration. I know some girls squirt just by clitoral stimulation but that has never happened to me. It is actually what I do when I don’t want to squirt but I find it also builds up (or seems to) because if I do that a few times then when I actually do squirt there is way more than if I were squirting everyday. Some specific angles are better than others. I don’t think it is age but I have read that it does become more frequent the you… try to squirt.
radaronelson
/ December 6, 2012Awesome. Great post and very informative.
trjensen
/ December 8, 2012Glad to help.
Jen and Tonic
/ December 9, 2012You are one fearless blogger! I appreciate that you talk so openly about stuff like this.
trjensen
/ December 11, 2012Thank you Jen!
seattlepolychick
/ December 10, 2012I nominated you!
http://seattlepolychick.com/2012/12/10/blog-of-the-year-award/#more-1112
trjensen
/ December 11, 2012Thank you so so so much!!!!
thephilosopher101
/ December 11, 2012well, you probably will never make freshly pressed. I agree.. Love it though
trjensen
/ December 11, 2012Thank you!
The Wandering Mind
/ December 11, 2012Nothing wrong with making a splash. I think you just inspired me to write about an experience I’ve been having for quite some time now. It’s become a topic of interest & exploration with this girl I’ve been seeing. She can’t seem to wrap her mind around this.
trjensen
/ December 11, 2012Oh lord! Let me know when you’ve written it.