You know… It’s funny because this is one of the prompts I changed. I thought I could write this easily. It seems like there are easily twenty guys I’ve dated that I probably shouldn’t have. Then I thought about it some more and like everything else in my life, realized that I don’t really regret any of them. I dated all of them for a reason. Every one of them has taught me some valuable lessons. I wouldn’t be writing a book if it weren’t for them.
I am kind of grateful to all of the morons who didn’t realize what they had when they had me because damn if I didn’t learn more about myself from those experiences. I am a really strong girl and I have become even pickier (if you can believe it). I am way too focused on the future to be looking at the past (at least not for too long). If you don’t keep an eye on what is in front of you, you start running into shit and that just slows you down. I trip enough even when I stay focused so distracting myself probably isn’t too wise.
I don’t regret anyone I let into my life. I think I may have let a few stay too long but there were lessons in that too. You are all probably rolling your eyes with me and the lessons but it is so important to take everything we can even from unhappy situations. What’s the worst that could happen. I just keep getting more awesome.
Viciously Sweet
/ November 27, 2012You are more awesome than ever Teri! And I feel like your writings are a “sexy” Sesame Street to me.
trjensen
/ November 27, 2012LOL! Does that mean funny Lauren? I think I need you to draw me a visual aid.
Cakes McCain
/ November 27, 2012Totally agree, couldn’t have said it better sister!!!! xoxo
(But seriously? You dated that braised-ham dufus? LOL!)
trjensen
/ November 27, 2012I did and I have a story about him. I know I shouldn’t have anymore stories about him but I do. :/ I will be sharing soon.
Cakes McCain
/ November 28, 2012I really want to hear that one Teri, cause I know you’re going to have me in stitches and/or in a standing ovation! xo
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012I do hope you like it. It was a situation I certainly shouldn’t have been in. But it was amusing to me.
Lorna's Voice
/ November 27, 2012Like you, I’ve had a few “epic fails” when it comes to men, but they all taught me something of value, so I have no regrets either. Some scars (emotional), but no regrets!
trjensen
/ November 27, 2012The scars are the only thing worth bragging about. I want to write a scene like the one in Jaws where Dreyfus and Shaw are showing off their scars. It would just be women discussing their defense mechanisms.
nancyelauzon
/ November 27, 2012You’re so right. We learn from our mistakes. That’s what gives them meaning. It’s so important to have no regrets. Keep on truckin’!
trjensen
/ November 27, 2012I love you Nancy! Everytime I read your comments it makes me happy.
coconutspeak
/ November 27, 2012I am so with you on this !! I dated a guy who was absolutely gorgeous. After a good look over, I figured he would be an amazing lover. Girl, was I wrong! He was a selfish jackhammer! Plus the fact that he was dumb as a stump! After a few weeks, I dropped him like a bad habit.
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012I’ve dated pretty ones… shit, I only date pretty ones. (I’ve been told that is my problem). But I kinda’ like the dumb ones, in some respects. I enjoy being smarter but it clearly isn’t working for me.
Lafemmeroar
/ November 27, 2012Yup … we can all learn from our mistakes. You are AWESOME!
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012Merci! I try.
Lafemmeroar
/ November 30, 2012stilllearning2b
/ November 28, 2012I dated some interesting ones during my Match Madness and, even though I can’t believe I was attracted to some of them, I don’t regret anything. I learned something from every date and every encounter. Those are lasting lessons. I would much rather live with the eyes of a perpectual student than exist under the cloak of regret!
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012I don’t regret anything. Gotta’ keep looking forward.
Le Clown
/ November 28, 2012Teri,
I like this post. You shouldn’t regret anyone. Even though I am certain some were questionable… We all had a few of these…
I just keep getting more awesome… I like that. It’s a nice motto to live by.
Le Clown
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012Le Clown,
Thank you my friend. I appreciate your support. I think some of the bad ones have benefitted me more than the good ones.
Teri
nikkix2
/ November 28, 2012High five and a Amen Sista Friend!
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012Thanks doll! I am glad you are enjoying it.
notsosmitten
/ November 28, 2012I’m still laughing at the first picture on this post, but you are definitely right – keep it going, girl
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012It’s all we can do. No matter how hard we try to hold on to bullshit time keeps pushing us forward. Thank the stars for that.
Kay BeeBee
/ November 28, 2012ha ha … still laughing over the jaws and women with their scars comments … that is just sooooooo damn true … been bitten by a few sharks in my time
x
trjensen
/ November 29, 2012Right? I really want to write and shoot it. It’d be funny.
samssocial
/ December 1, 2012Would it be wrong to make you my dating oracle?
trjensen
/ December 1, 2012Not at all. I like helping.
James Kennedy
/ February 12, 2013It’s really comforting to find a blogger who talks about sex from a woman’s perspective so openly. Keep up the good work
trjensen
/ February 12, 2013Thank you. I do my best.