Things I Can Do Without – Liquid Courage
It bothers me when I know someone I cannot have normal, rational sober conversations with. I have fallen victim to a drunken confrontation, phone call or text regarding some matter that would be better dealt with sober. I understand that some people have a difficult time expressing how they feel. I am typically not one of those people. Being meek about what I feel/think is not something typically associated with me. “Brutally honest” is a far better description.
When someone can’t have a conversation with me when they are sober I have a difficult time taking them seriously. I have had men tell me they loved me when they were drunk. I’ve had men tell me they hated me when they were drunk. I’ve dated guys who only call me and discuss anything of actual relevance or importance when they are drunk.
Maybe I am just drawn to alcoholics… I guess that would add some validity to the whole idea of women dating men like their fathers. That will have to be its own post. It really isn’t just guys. I know girls who are completely introvert but get a few drinks in them and they behave like they were raised by animals. I am always amazed by the phenomenon that can transform a mild mannered person into a big fat douche.
If you have anything worth saying or doing, if you feel strongly about it, then say or do it sober because if the only time you have any kind of backbone or personality is when you are drunk then maybe you should just stay home. When you try to have an important conversation or really want express yourself and you are wasted no sober person is going to take you seriously. It also makes you seem like you’re chicken shit.
lizajack25
/ September 24, 2012I don’t really drink either. I don’t have much respect for those who get arseholed all the time.
trjensen
/ October 1, 2012It is hard to take them seriously.
Viciously Sweet
/ September 24, 2012I know some men who are just like this! I think if you should never drink until you’re a mess in a corner crying. I’ve seen it too many times!
trjensen
/ September 24, 2012True! I also hate when someone acts like a complete ass then uses being drunk as an excuse for their shitty behavior. If you know you are going to make an ass of yourself then don’t drink or at least have the balls (women too) to say and do what you have pent up when you are sober. If you can’t just be who you are then I don’t have time for you.
Pink Ninjabi
/ September 24, 2012Hugsss.. and kudos to you for saying it like it is!
Pink.
trjensen
/ October 1, 2012Thanks!
Lorna's Voice
/ September 25, 2012I know people like that who get quite “stupid with drink.” I often wish I had a tape recorder (sheesh, you can tell how old I am) so I could play their drunken confessions/rants back to them when they are sober. Now a days, I suppose any phone with video would do the trick, eh?
trjensen
/ September 25, 2012It has been my experience that most don’t care “because they were drunk.”
Lorna's Voice
/ September 25, 2012That’s a shame. It’s no excuse. People use alcohol to escape and then use it as an “out” for bad behavior. A real shame…
trjensen
/ September 25, 2012I agree and I often wonder how people could have maintained platonic relationships doing this throughout adulthood.
benzeknees
/ September 25, 2012This is the reason I cannot be with someone I love.
trjensen
/ September 25, 2012A will back, I dated a guy I really liked but he was a totally different person when he was drunk. The problem was I liked drunk guy more so I knew that wasn’t going to work.
Karmic Diva
/ September 25, 2012I lost track of you for awhile. Glad to see you’re still saying what needs to be said. Drunks don’t impress me either and I avoid them. Not being a drinker I like having sober people around me. Drunks can get nasty.
Cakes McCain
/ September 26, 2012Cheers to that (no pun intended)