I talk a lot about timing and how sometimes things feel like they aren’t happening at the right stage in your life. I don’t know that I necessarily believe that is true anymore. I genuinely believe that every experience happens to you for a singular purpose. That purpose… to grow.
That being said, timing isn’t really an issue. This conclusion leads to only one rational explanation. Some relationships are just more complicated than others. Some relationships, no matter how strong your connection is, require more work. It doesn’t mean that they aren’t meant to be. It just means that due to circumstance the gestation period of some relationships is just longer. Your interactions may be more limited than you would like. Progress may be slower than you hope for but that doesn’t mean that your timing is bad. It doesn’t mean you aren’t supposed to be in each other’s lives right now.
Things happen when and how they are supposed to. Some things happen the way we want them to; when we want them to. Some things don’t turn out the way we hope. It is always easier to speculate how something might be better if the circumstances were slightly different but those experiences and relationships exist so we may grow.
We have something to learn from everyone who enters our lives. Some relationships are more significant but they all have something to teach us. So when a relationship isn’t going exactly the way you hope it doesn’t mean it isn’t working. Sometimes the struggle can make a relationship stronger. Sometimes we have lessons to learn about ourselves. We just need to be open to what life presents to us.
Take from each experience, the joy and learning opportunities and appreciate each person for what they can offer, an opportunity to grow and experience. And remember, no experience is bad as long as you can move forward a better person.
People come into your life just when you need them. Some are there to teach easy lessons. Others are there to remind you of something. Some serve to teach you something external, others teach you something about yourself. But they are there and present when they need to be. Their timing (in the grand scheme of things) is always perfect.