I talk a lot about timing and how sometimes things feel like they aren’t happening at the right stage in your life. I don’t know that I necessarily believe that is true anymore. I genuinely believe that every experience happens to you for a singular purpose. That purpose… to grow.
That being said, timing isn’t really an issue. This conclusion leads to only one rational explanation. Some relationships are just more complicated than others. Some relationships, no matter how strong your connection is, require more work. It doesn’t mean that they aren’t meant to be. It just means that due to circumstance the gestation period of some relationships is just longer. Your interactions may be more limited than you would like. Progress may be slower than you hope for but that doesn’t mean that your timing is bad. It doesn’t mean you aren’t supposed to be in each other’s lives right now.
Things happen when and how they are supposed to. Some things happen the way we want them to; when we want them to. Some things don’t turn out the way we hope. It is always easier to speculate how something might be better if the circumstances were slightly different but those experiences and relationships exist so we may grow.
We have something to learn from everyone who enters our lives. Some relationships are more significant but they all have something to teach us. So when a relationship isn’t going exactly the way you hope it doesn’t mean it isn’t working. Sometimes the struggle can make a relationship stronger. Sometimes we have lessons to learn about ourselves. We just need to be open to what life presents to us.
Take from each experience, the joy and learning opportunities and appreciate each person for what they can offer, an opportunity to grow and experience. And remember, no experience is bad as long as you can move forward a better person.
People come into your life just when you need them. Some are there to teach easy lessons. Others are there to remind you of something. Some serve to teach you something external, others teach you something about yourself. But they are there and present when they need to be. Their timing (in the grand scheme of things) is always perfect.
andy1076
/ August 2, 2012A strong message, the next time someone goes “I don’t think this is the right time”. Thank you!
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012I believe that although a relationship isn’t exactly what we want it is still happening when it should.
A Dog With Fleas
/ August 2, 2012Very well said and very true!!
Sophia
/ August 2, 2012So true
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012The Wandering Mind
/ August 2, 2012Reblogged this on The Wandering Mind and commented:
Now here is a very positive outlook on timing from the always lovely Teri. In ones life people & events come in & out of your life for various reasons. Each brings its own lessons. Like I always say, everything happens for a reason.
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012Thank you Stephen!
The Wandering Mind
/ August 2, 2012Your outlook on things has changed Teri. I’m happy for you.
Is horseback riding as fun & sexy as it seems?
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012I don’t know that it has changed. I am just looking at it from a different angle.
Cakes McCain
/ August 2, 2012boy, you hit that nail on the head, and that last paragraph never rang more true for me than tonight. (plus YOUR timing is impeccable. Tx xo)
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012Always glad to help.
Lorna's Voice
/ August 3, 2012I don’t believe in coincidences. As you said, when you most need something or someone, that thing or person appears. if it (or they) don’t, then you really didn’t need it, did you?
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012Exactly! Thank you Lorna!
lizajack25
/ August 3, 2012Reblogged this on thehuntformrrightnow and commented:
She says everything I have been thinking myself – but says it better!
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012Thanks for the support.
Keyser
/ August 4, 2012Why do you call this the narcissist’s blog?
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012I can be rather vain. I love myself and that is often misinterupted as narcissism.
Pink Ninjabi
/ August 4, 2012Really LOVE this post and how reflective and accurate your honesty is in revealing the true nature of connections, and the complexities in between. Hugs to you. And peace in all that you place.
Pink.
trjensen
/ August 9, 2012Thank you Pink!
Bodhirose
/ August 13, 2012You are one smart cookie!
trjensen
/ August 14, 2012I have my moments. When I am under a great deal of stress it is difficult to sort through eberything let alone reflect but once the smoke clears I have had an opportunity to really take in what I have learned.
Isis Galaxy
/ February 8, 2013While I appreciate this perspective, I am not sure I agree. Perhaps it’s the athiest in me, but I do not believe things happen for a resin, or that people come into your life when they were “meant to”. Because I believe far more in both the randomness of events, as well as the individual agency required to bring about certain events, I’m not fatalistic about things. I do think that sometimes things haven’t worked out well because two people were at different stages in their lives, relationships, personal growth, needs, etc. And I also believe that the more self aware we are, and clear with others about our own needs, desires, abilities, etc, the more we increase the likelihood that the people who enter our lives will be seen as well timed.
trjensen
/ February 11, 2013I am in no way religious but I do believe things happen when they do and sometimes we make ourselves feel better by saying the timing was off, maybe down the road. I find it easier to accept that things happen the way they do when they do and sometimes it isn’t the ideal circumstances but it is still just what it is.