We all know there is a very real double standard when it comes to women and casual sex. Men can have sex with whoever, whenever and it is completely socially acceptable. Sure, they may get labeled for it. Women warn their friends about the manwhore or male slut they have dated but the truth is even these labels are worn by men as a badge of honor. Even many women disregard these labels because this behavior is socially acceptable and somewhat expected of men.
Women who have sex on impulse or have sex outside a committed relationship aren’t viewed as independent and adventurous. The societal perception of women enjoying and expressing their sexuality is far less flattering. Boy will be boys; women are sluts.
Over the past few years, with events like “SlutWalks” happening all over the country and the public outcry over the “War on Women” things have slowly begun to change. Women have become more united. They are working toward finding their collective voice. Slut shaming and the poorly conceived concept that women are primarily or solely to blame for unplanned pregnancy are no longer acceptable. We have truly begun to stand to together for our sisters. We are beginning to unite!
Women are taking a strong stance against the negativity surrounding female sexuality, expression and the idea that we are solely to blame for anything that could go wrong (e.g. rape, unplanned pregnancy.) As a result, we are learning to embrace our sexual selves. We are better coming together to deal with all of the negative social stigma surrounding women and their sex lives.
The truth is women should be afforded the same sexual freedom and respect men receive. Expressions of our sexuality are just as important as men’s. The truth is sexual expression and enjoying one’s sexual freedom is an important part of any individual’s life. We can all find strength in expressing our sexuality. It is something we should be allowed to explore without being judged or viewed negatively regardless of our how we choose to express it.
How much or little we choose to explore our sexual identity is not something that should be accepted based on gender. As with every other trait humans possess, our sexuality is unique and we should all be permitted to explore that individuality without fear of being labeled or persecuted. We should all be able to express ourselves proudly, male or female. We should be celebrating our autonomy, universally.