Fan Mail
Received at 3am, Saturday, June 16th, 2012
Your blog makes me puke. Not EVERYONE is jealous of you. Other females like me seriously appreciate the psycho narcissists like you out there, because men always learn one way or another that you’re not worth it… and women like me get them when you couldn’t. Take down this blog & go into therapy already. But, from the sounds of it, you’d fuck that up too. The hard TRUTH is that the only special people in this world are the ones who are NOT narcissists.
-Dragonfly
My blog gets a fair share of emails and comments good and bad. As my blog audience has increased, it seems like the amount of negative correspondence has increased. I typically just block the sender and be done with it. Every once in a while I get one like this that just seems so angry and out of context that I have to do a little more investigating. I thought perhaps I knew this woman but after about five minutes of research I realized I didn’t know her and that she lives clear across the country.
This one in particular seemed very… angry. My best guess is that this person didn’t spend much time reading my blog (if any at all.) The idea that anyone would identify me as a real narcissist seems so off base to me that I just couldn’t process where her anger was coming from or why she felt that sending a passive aggressive observation such as this one was in any way warranted or productive.
I was truly surprised at the tone of this message. I was curious about what might prompt someone to send something so hateful to someone she had never met and who’s work she clearly didn’t read or at very least, didn’t interpret the way it is intended. Maybe my work is coming across as shallow and self-centered in a way that isn’t quite as tongue-in-cheek as I thought…
All-in all, I am not bothered by the judgement of readers who misinterpret my writing. You can’t please everyone but clearly I am doing a damn good job of pissing some people off. The truth is this kind of fan mail really makes those of you who find some value in what I do and see the good in my work even more precious to me. I appreciate the support of my amazing followers, fellow writers and supporters so much. So thank you for your continued support of my blog and my writing! I love each and every one of you.
xoxo
The Narcissist
The Insane Asylum (Mr. Chap)
/ June 16, 2012If it counts for anything, I am jealous of you.
I love your site, and I read your stuff often. I just don’t let it be known…in an “I watch Jersey Shore but no one knows” kinda way.
trjensen
/ June 16, 2012Thank you! That does actually help.
The Wandering Mind
/ June 16, 2012I can’t wait until I start getting hate mail. I must be doing something wrong since no one is taking aim at me. Sigh. Like I said earlier, don’t pay her any mind.
Cakes McCain
/ June 16, 2012I don’t get it. Maybe she missed the part about how forgiving and supportive you are o the people in your life.
xo
trjensen
/ June 16, 2012My hope is that she actually went back and read some of my work. She clearly misjudged me.
Cakes McCain
/ June 17, 2012yeah. Aside from being hurtful to another – at the end of the day its so pointless and negative for one’s self even, to lash out like that.
live and let live.
Nifti
/ June 17, 2012She’s clearly got some misplaced anger it sounds like. I’d be looking to that man of hers…
trjensen
/ June 17, 2012True story! SOmething is happened and I am truly sorry for that. I dated a real narcissist for almost a year and it was one of the most difficult periods of my life. When we broke up I was suffering from significant damage stemmed from emotional abuse I had not experienced since I was a child. I understand why that could cause passive aggressiveness.
Karmic Diva
/ June 17, 2012I’m jealous. You’re such a good writer. Thanks for following me. ’I’m finally on Facebook, the demon of social media. I’m sitting alone here in my tiny dark corner of Facebook waiting for your visit. Please come and see me my new Facebook page and for heaven sakes…Like me!!
http://www.facebook.com/SimplyKarmicDiva
trjensen
/ June 17, 2012You are super sweet! I liked your fan page x3!
benzeknees
/ June 17, 2012Anyone who had read your blog for even one post would know you are not what you are being accused of in your hate mail. I think she’s taking your description & turning it around – she can’t possibly know anything about you. We love you TR
Aurora HSP
/ June 17, 2012A psychologist once told me that when we are labeling or name calling, it is really about the self. She said it all better than any of us ever could anyway. Stay true, stay you, you are soooo good at what you do, love it and you
trjensen
/ June 19, 2012That is very true Janice. I have been known to project myself loathing on others. I am so glad I am in place where I respect myself waayyyyy more now.
Aurora HSP
/ June 19, 2012Rock on, soul sister, be you, stay true xo
nancyelizabethlauzon
/ June 18, 2012You’ve hit the big time, getting hate mail, LOL! But seriously, people love to flame anonymously, it makes them feel important.
trjensen
/ June 19, 2012True story! The funny thing is I found a picture and where she lived in about .09 seconds so anonymity did really work in her favor. I just wanted to see if I knew her before I blocked her.
halfwaybetweenthegutter
/ June 19, 2012Well you know what they say… any publicity is good publicity! No, seriously though.. each and every negative comment I’ve had on my blog so far (only a tiny handful, phew) has been strangely angry, and I came to the same conclusion that you did; they clearly didn’t take the time to read anything other than a few choice snippets of your posts.
Keep doing what you do
trjensen
/ June 19, 2012I shall. It was very angry. It is kind of laughable that she was so upset and had no real basis for being angry. (If she had read my blog that is.)