The other night I was sent a message via internet dating site. The guy tried to engage me in entirely the wrong way. I had a little temper tantrum about it and I was good. The question was then asked, “How should guys approach you?” I discussed something very similar exactly a year ago today on my blog. (Weird, huh?) Although the circumstances were different the response is still the same. I decided to reshare Talk Dirty to Me in the hopes that any questions might be answered.
I know I can come off as brash and a little crude sometimes but the quickest way to get me to ignore your horny ass is to assume I would just fuck you regardless of how you behave. I hope you enjoy.
bestbathroombooks
/ May 7, 2012Served straight up. Crystal clear!
trjensen
/ May 8, 2012Thank you!
Lorna's Voice
/ May 8, 2012Whatever happened to romance? Is it all about “hooking-up?” Aren’t people interested in each other’s personalities and interests? And when I say “people” I mean mostly men…
NormalDeviations
/ May 8, 2012A depressing thought: I wonder if some people do that because they’ve been “successful” that way in the past? Ugh.
trjensen
/ May 8, 2012I am sure it does work. My whole thing is if you want to just get down with someone they have sites for that. To me there is this aspect of desperation in online dating. I always chalk this kind of behavior up to that. AND I hate desperate!
Viciously Sweet
/ May 8, 2012Sometimes the people online are like the total worst! Just because you are online does not mean there should be the most horn-doggiest you can be.
trjensen
/ May 8, 2012My issue is that these guys would never talk to a woman like that if they were face to face with her but the interent seems to eliminate any filter or sense of approriate behavior.
You know the funny thing is because I say on dating profile that I write about dating and relationships guys always come at me with “I can be your next story angle.” On my blog, I get messages all the time from guys who want to date.” I don’t use my profile for research and I am not trying to find a man via my blog. Neither outlet seems to work the way I want. I don’t do this to get a boyfriend and don’t use my profile for research. It is all ass backwards.
The Wandering Mind
/ May 10, 2012It’s actually quite simple, if I act like a dirty pig, you’ll fuck me like an animal. If I act like a gentleman, you’ll fuck me by not fucking me at all.
Kidding, don’t kill me.
I can’t comment on online dating much, but the dirtiest/most honest sexual comment I’ve made to a woman (a friend of mine while she was figuring our what to wear to a party) was something along the lines of, “Wow, you look stunning, simply delicious.”
It was a total slip of the tongue, I didn’t mean to say that last word even though I thought it. She smiled and “Delicious, that’s a new one, I like it.”
I followed up by kissing her on the cheek (while resisting the urge to kiss her on the neck). We are honestly just friends, but she was looking quite delectable.
trjensen
/ May 10, 2012And that’s fine! The truth is if I am genuinely interested then I will let you know. At that point and in the righ context I love men saying nasty shit to me but we have to work up to that.