I just logged on to my online dating profile and two seconds later I get an IM. “Hey sexy lady I was just wondering if you would be down for some casual fun with a younger guy?” WTF? I promptly logged right back off.
I don’t know why I am so annoyed. He was hot but I guess that means I am really getting to a place where that just isn’t what I want. I don’t ever want anything that casual. “Yes strange man! Please come to my house at 2:37 a.m. on a Monday. Or better yet… maybe we can just have awkward cramped sex in your car behind a strip mall.” I don’t think so.
I mean I have had sex with near strangers but you still have to put in some work. When did every dating site turn into fucking craigslist? And let me state for the record I am not in any way opposed to casual fun but have a little tact, huh? Pretend to fucking try. Douche!
Okay! I am done… The temper tantrum is over.
The Eclectic LadyBird
/ May 7, 2012Haha…(Sorry, I’m just slightly amused). I like how brief, concise and straight to the point that was. The rant, that is. Also, I love the Keep Calm slogan! Just yesterday I was thinking of posting it myself. Your variation is way better. Lol.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012Thanks! I thought it was funny too. I was literally only on for like thirty seconds. That is what I get for checking my account this early in the morning I guess.
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012I am so glad I don’t date internet wise. I would need someone to explain the rules. What’s not acceptable conversation and what is it a woman is expecting to hear from perspective suitors?
How about you do a rule book TJ, so those men might learn the right way to approach and pursue you? I would surely read that informative post.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012I shall do my best.
Cakes McCain
/ May 7, 2012As soon as I saw the title for this one I thought “uh oh,” I knew what was coming. I couldn’t agree more. Unless we are posting beaver shots including a post-it note (or neon sign for some) above our crotches saying “place your order here” – F’ck off. I often wonder if these men have any success with this strategy of approach.
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012Many men have no clue how to approach a woman, be it in real life or on the internet. If you think about it, men and women are not taught those types of subjects when being taught about sexual education. Hell, not many people get taught sexual education that actually includes the act of sex or how one gets to the act of sex.
Men need education in many areas when it comes to women, how to approach them, what to say and not say, and how to over come our uncomfortable emotions when it comes to the “approach”. I have not felt any types of fumbling emotions when it comes to women since I was 16, but I was “taught” by a woman in her middle 30′s all about women, life and living for that matter.
I was blessed to be involved with a woman who taught me things I would later relish knowing. So…how do we get men to learn how to come to you ladies?
Cakes McCain
/ May 7, 2012I’m stumped. (Nationwide re-programming/brainwashing is a big task! Maybe the US government can help with that, and you could lead the team!
J, you have no idea how much worse it is here, and more wide spread. How the men got the rep as world class lovers is beyond me. I see them approaching women like giant anvils made of cheddar cheese, with legs.
They can’t even talk to a woman never mind go beyond that. (All the women that have slept with them must have been doing valium-vodka chasers back in the day).
Even with their sometimes ridiculous behavior – I’ll take a Canadian or American homeboy anyday. God bless ‘em.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012I think part of that is cultural. I dated a guy from Spain and he had no game. I mean he was just awkward. But the one thing I have to say is that guy was attentive as hell. With American men I think, the thing I struggle with most is dealing with the con, alpha’s who feel like they have to manipulate you. I see that shit from a mile away. Sometimes I’ll play and sometimes I just don’t want to. Men aren’t that slick. If I buy into it then that is on me. I also know that for most men they evolve from that. At some point the game gets old. I’ve seen it happen.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012My whole thing is here I can teach. In my personal life I don’t have the patience. Also how you approach me depends on who you are. Some times blunt works with me and sometimes I just want to smack a guy in the face.
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012And u expect a ,am to know when to use what approach with you how?
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012That should read U expect a MAN to know what approach to use with you how? I hate typos.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012I always ALWAYS prefer a man be respectful and not assume I am just a bunch of orifices looking to get filled. I think that is the best way to approach any woman.
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012TJ, I think we both know, depending where you meet a woman, what you both are looking for at that meeting, and how your mood effects your mission, many woman desire to be treated as “just a set of orifices”.
That is the problem, women want us men to know automatically what you are thinking.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012If a dude wants to talk to me like that straight off the bat, three things have to be happening.
1. I have to be twirly (horny) as hell.
2. I better be really drunk.
3. You better look like this…
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012Uh huh. Lets hope the dudes understand how to tell your moods. Enjoy your Tuesday.
trjensen
/ May 7, 2012I mean if I were on a casual dating site, and I have gone that route, I totally get that men can get away with that approach but on a plain old dating site. I hate that shit. Did ya’ even look at my profile? Nope because it says I am interested in relationship. Guys in their twenties can be funny. I have dated guys that age and it seems there are two mindsets. I want to fuck any and everything or I want try and have grown up relationship now. I always wind up with the ones in transition. I fucking tutor men. I am still trying to get past that.
Jueseppi B.
/ May 7, 2012I don’t know what your profile says because I never read your profile. Unless I was interested in dating you, I don’t see how I could even know what your dating profile says.
Lorna's Voice
/ May 8, 2012I’m out on a limb so fragile that a baby squirrel could snap it. I’ve never been on an online dating site. I don’t know how they work and why they work–if they work at all. I guess am too suspicious of people who use them–are they who they say they are? How do you tell a person’s intentions from typed words on a screen? It’s all so confusing and potentially fraught with problems.
trjensen
/ May 8, 2012I agree with you. I know people it does work for though. Maybe I am not as outgoing as I thnk I am.
The Eclectic LadyBird
/ May 10, 2012Have you been to this blog? http://lifeinthefarcelane.wordpress.com/
Coz I tell you. For a moment there I though it was you, with a new blog name.
She’s got a similar post with the very same image! Coincidence?
http://lifeinthefarcelane.wordpress.com/2012/05/10/online-dating-a-bit-of-a-rant/
trjensen
/ May 10, 2012I actually really like this blog!