I have been writing this blog for a little over a year. When I started my blog I was just beginning to understand myself and what I really wanted in life. I was starting to examine what was important to me, why it was important and trying to achieve so many goals. I have grown a lot this year. I’ve really found my voice.
This period in my life and everything I have learned has taught me so much about who I am and who I want to continue to be. I love sharing my experiences some positive and some that were more difficult lessons to learn. I wouldn’t trade any of it. I am so thankful that I continue to have this outlet to share my life and experiences and that it is in some way a benefit to others.
I am really proud of my blog. I look forward for continuing to grow and share the lessons in my life with you. (And hopefully no one will get sick of reading it)
When I was in my twenties, trying to accept my future as a cat lady, I had guy friend who was kind of a manwhore. Because he was so promiscuous I was baffled when he started dating a young woman who was very religious. I just didn’t get it. He genuinely seemed to like her which made no sense to me because he never had real girlfriends and it seemed impossible to me that he could actually abstain.
One night I asked him how was handling with abstinence. He smirked at me and assured me that he and the girl who actually dragged him with her to bible study three times a week were not abstaining. I was confused because as I stated when I stopped having sex at twenty-four bjs were barely on the menu for me so anything else happening was not even on mind (I know it’s hard to imagine.) He then told me one of the craziest stories I had heard until that point in my life.
It seemed that, to his girlfriend, as long as her hymen was still intact until she was married that she was a virgin. So rather than abstain she had anal sex with her boyfriends. Her logic was faulty to me. Anal sex is sex. I asked him if he considered her a virgin and he said no. That poor girl had lots of boyfriends before she finally got married a few years later. Her hymen may have been intact but I always joked she would likely needs Depends after the birth of her first child.
It is funny to me because most men argue with me about whether or not she is a virgin. Guys always say she was still a virgin while my female friends agreed that by having sex she wasn’t. What do you think? If a woman has only had anal sex is she still a virgin?