Over the past year I have done a lot of things I said I would never do. A lot of things… I tried to live by the idea “don’t knock it until you try it.” I have opened myself up to many new things, some I liked and some I didn’t. I know that most women have certain things they won’t do in the bedroom. Every girl draws the line somewhere.
When I became sexually active my limits were numerous. In fact, only acceptable forms of sexual activity were vaginal sex and oral, with me as the recipient. I didn’t want to touch or see a penis and I damn sure wasn’t sticking one in my mouth. A few years later, when I was more accustomed to the sight of a penis I decided touching one wasn’t so terrible and I even let a guy talk me into sticking one in my mouth. I still refused to let a guy finish in my mouth but I determined that I rather liked oral sex even when I was on the giving end. I finally got to the point where I was comfortable enough with men and their equipment that I started seeing the job through to completion.
As I got older and more adventurous I decided that I needed to try to be more open. I decided I wanted to try anal sex and I did. The first guy I had anal sex with was not well endowed and I walked away from the experience feeling like it wasn’t that bad. It wasn’t my favorite thing to do but I could do it once in a while. The second man I did it with then ruined it for every other man I would ever sleep with. He was well endowed and didn’t seem to think lube was necessary when trying to cram himself into an orifice that does not lubricate itself. I have been very fortunate in regard to men’s size and there is no way I would let most of the men I have slept with anywhere near my butthole, even with lube.
So at that point the things that were off limits were the obvious… no animals, no body fluids that weren’t normally associated with sex and nothing that involve hooking me up to a piece of electrical equipment. I had done almost everything I said I would never do. What can I say? In the heat of the moment I tend to be very accommodating.
So now when I am talking to my friends about sex and they run off a laundry list of things that one could experience in a sexual encounter, I have typically tried more than most of them. But I still have one hang up. It is the one thing I just don’t like. Most people laugh at me when I tell them because it is really mild by comparison.
Don’t come on my face! I don’t even like the idea of it. That is where I draw the line in the sand.
Cakes McCain
/ February 2, 2012Love ya girl! Full of surprises!!!
I’m with ya… not a huge fan. It’s really just for the boys and their benefit. Got it in the eye once (it stung)… later in the day someone asked me if I had ‘pink eye!’ hahaha!
thefutureofhope
/ February 2, 2012Exactly! One bad eye infection and never again!
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012I guess not!
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012Lol!
a2realhousewife
/ February 2, 2012I would love to know your thoughts about this blog at some point.
http://thedailylove.com/what-men-want-reallly/
I am also going to write my award acceptance this weekend when I have time to do it justice. Thank you again! K
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012Congratulations. I will check it out.
dribblingpensioner
/ February 2, 2012trjensen
/ February 2, 2012daterofboys
/ February 2, 2012Once, when I was lying on my back giving head, the guy pulled out at the last second and came on my face —without my permission.
I was in absolute horror/shock about it for a long time.
He should be thanking his lucky stars that he’s still alive…
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012Yes! I have had men ask if they could or where I wanted it and I said not on my face!
A Single Parent's Life
/ February 2, 2012I am pretty open to a lot of stuff but that is the one things I am not open to even trying never have and don’t think I ever will. That is the one thing I can think of that I can not say I would try even once. Most stuff sure try it and see you never know. But not that. I don’t blame you at all.
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012Yeah me either. I had always felt pretty strongly about it but for some reason, seeing that shirt a few years ago was the nail in the coffin for me. I laughed out loud and was also offended.
wobsy
/ February 2, 2012Well, it wouldn’t do for us all to be the same but, I have to say, I can’t see how any bloke can gain any pleasure from cumming on a woman’s face! Seems like abuse to me.
I generally prefer women I have sex with to have beautiful faces, not defiled ones.
Rob.
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012It just seems degrading to me.
BimodalTendancies
/ February 2, 2012This is the most unintentionally funny post I’ve ever read. I got to the end, having no idea what to expect, and then I saw the shirt. And I just lost it.
GREAT writing!!!!
trjensen
/ February 2, 2012Thanks. But it wasn’t unintentional.
BimodalTendancies
/ February 2, 2012Even better then!! ^_^
Cadence Harper
/ February 3, 2012I’m with you, girl… Totally degrading
trjensen
/ February 4, 2012It is just icky and I get offended when they ask. “Really? No you can’t!”
Cadence Harper
/ February 4, 2012I’ve only had guys elude to such a thing but if asked out right I’d probably say.. YOU FIRST… We’ll see how you like it, then maybe I’ll think about it. Lol
trjensen
/ February 4, 2012That’d be awesome!
Bad Advice Girl
/ February 3, 2012That made me laugh so hard! I love your blog. It’s honest and real.
trjensen
/ February 4, 2012Awe thanks! I am honest!
Bodhirose
/ February 3, 2012I’m with you…I find that act to be totally degrading. Not cool!
trjensen
/ February 4, 2012I think that shirt really defined for me why I didn’t like it. I saw it and was like Exactly!
The Wandering Mind
/ February 4, 2012Come to think of it, I’ve never (intentionally) cum on a girls face. That’s gotta mean something, right?
Great post.
trjensen
/ February 4, 2012Yes. I mean sometimes that stuff just doesn’t always end up where you want it to but doing it just to do it. Uh… Not okay!
lipstickandplaydates
/ February 6, 2012I’ve never done anal because the guys who asked me to do it were hung like baseball bats, so it scared the -hit out of me. If they had trouble getting in the front door ain’t no way they could slip in the back.
When guys ask to cum in your face…..I feel it’s a power thing. I also think they want to see how far they can go.
trjensen
/ February 6, 2012I agree that it is a power thing. The idea of it was always so degrading to me. When I saw that shirt it only confirmed that men know it is degrading too.
www.RoseRibbon.com
/ February 10, 2012I’m with you. The line is drawn…ewww!