The single most unattractive personality trait I find in men is desperation. I cannot stand a man who is over emotional. It is the quickest way to get me to head for the door. Once I realize that a man is just looking to be with someone… anyone, it makes me want to vomit.
Desperation in a man is pathetic. Someone just looking to be attached sets off so many red flags with me I can’t even stand to talk to him. I have recently encountered a couple of men who barely know me who have told me that they really like me and they would like to be in a relationship with me. This revelation was not brought about by an intimate encounter of any kind. I have never spent any time with either them socially or alone. So when I hear, “I really like you and I could see us being together” it scares the shit out of me.
Any guy just wanting a relationship to have one reminds me of many of the crazy women I know, women who NEED a man. It is insecure and emotionally unstable. I don’t want those qualities in a partner. I want a man how knows what he wants but is still willing to work for it. Guys who just expect a women to say, “Okay, let’s have a relationship are crazy.” Who does that?
I can’t just settle. I want a relationship but I won’t beg for one. I try not to come off as overly needy or clingy in any situation. It is such a turn off. It is the single most effective way to repel me. Women do not want a man who just wants someone. They want men who want her and know why.