The single most unattractive personality trait I find in men is desperation.  I cannot stand a man who is over emotional.  It is the quickest way to get me to head for the door.  Once I realize that a man is just looking to be with someone… anyone, it makes me want to vomit.

Desperation in a man is pathetic.  Someone just looking to be attached sets off so many red flags with me I can’t even stand to talk to him.  I have recently encountered a couple of men who barely know me who have told me that they really like me and they would like to be in a relationship with me.  This revelation was not brought about by an intimate encounter of any kind.  I have never spent any time with either them socially or alone.  So when I hear, “I really like you and I could see us being together” it scares the shit out of me. 

Any guy just wanting a relationship to have one reminds me of many of the crazy women I know, women who NEED a man.  It is insecure and emotionally unstable.  I don’t want those qualities in a partner.  I want a man how knows what he wants but is still willing to work for it.  Guys who just expect a women to say, “Okay, let’s have a relationship are crazy.”  Who does that?

I can’t just settle.  I want a relationship but I won’t beg for one.  I try not to come off as overly needy or clingy in any situation.  It is such a turn off.  It is the single most effective way to repel me.  Women do not want a man who just wants someone.  They want men who want her and know why.