So I tried the online dating thing and I find it makes me even more dismissive than I usually am. I tend to be a picky, semi-shallow woman when it comes to picking a potential sex partner. What can I say? I have always admired how well a present is wrapped. I am big on aesthetics. It isn’t all I am interested in but it definitely catches my attention.
The problem I have with online dating is that it affords me the opportunity to be far more judgmental and dismissive. I find myself looking at men’s profiles trying to find something wrong. I always fucking do. Not because there is anything that makes them truly unsuitable but I get over judgmental and pass. I do so because there will surely be someone else for me to judge and dismiss for the same silly reasons.
I know online dating works for some people but it doesn’t work for me. I need someone in my face. I need to be reminded that a man is there. I need presence and it is far too easy for me to ignore interested suitors online. I need someone to catch my attention. A photo and blurb about your interests are just too easy to pick apart and move on to the next victim.
I left my dating profile open because I do like to see who is interested. I get plenty of attention on the site. I just can’t imagine finding a potential partner using that sort of service. I need to trawl, let friends introduce me to guys and just get out more. And I also find that social networking and my blog are possible options. I have actually reconnected with some old friends and I am not opposed to paying a few of them a visit. *wink wink
I am trying to be less judgmental and pessimistic and online dating makes it easy for me to be both, in the comfort of my own living room. It just isn’t as fun to be a bitch in private. If and when I decide that someone has warranted a little of my bad attitude I much prefer it be face to face and that I have an audience.